Woman says she won’t get a date because she’s on welfare

Woman says she won't get a date because she's on welfare

Lynn McDermott says: “It should be about what the person is like on the inside, not a disability” (Image: SWNS)

A disabled woman says she was made to feel “invincible” because she was on welfare.

Lynn McDermott, 48, claims she was even called a “parasite” by potential suitors when they found out she wasn’t working.

The Southampton single mum says she’s getting the payments legitimately, but that doesn’t stop men she talks to on sites like Plenty of Fish and eHarmony from either blinding her or getting angry.

She said: “A guy told me I was a parasite. He said, “You can walk and talk, why can’t you work?”

“I’m not financially able to date people, but most men are divorced and seem to think I’m after their money.

“I’m not looking for any handouts in any way, I’m looking for love and that’s all I want. I just want to be loved and love someone else.’

Lynn, whose children are grown and have left home, was diagnosed with endocarditis and underwent heart valve replacement on Boxing Day 2017.

She then spent six months in a coma, from December 2017 to June 2018, before being hospitalized again a month later due to immunological issues.

After recovering from her ordeal, Lynn was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and found to be immunocompromised – meaning her body couldn’t fight off infection and disease.


Lynn McDermott says men refuse to date her because she receives benefits (Image: Lynn McDermott / SWNS)

Due to her health condition, Lynn receives Universal Credit, PIP (Personal Independence Payment) and ESA (Employment and Support Allowance) – totaling around £21,000 a year.

She said: “My disability is that I have heart failure but you would never know it by looking at me.

“I’m classified as disabled and unable to work because of my disability – but nobody would know that because I didn’t have my leg chopped off or anything and I just get on with my life.

“I’ve had a PIP and the paperwork with the issues I have – the heart failure and it’s not getting better.

‘If [men] Ask me what I’ve done in my life, they realized I’ve had a great career, I’m motivated and I think let’s see what I can do.


Lynn claims she was even called a “parasite” by potential suitors after they found out she wasn’t working (Image: Lynn McDermott / SWNS)

“I want to ask why welfare recipients aren’t qualified to be on dating sites – these sites ask you how much you make and what your job is, so I’ll say I get around £21,000 in a year.

“I get a lot of replies. I was last on Plenty of Fish six weeks ago and had 354 replies from people – they obviously like the looks but they just don’t appreciate that I’m disabled and on benefits.

“I dated two of them and the first words were, ‘Are you divorced?’ and “Do you own your own house?”

“A guy I dated recently asked me about finances on our second real date. I said, “What does that have to do with anything?” He said he didn’t want anyone stealing all his money from him because he was laden.

“The hash marks shouldn’t be about anything, it should be about how the person is on the inside, not about a disability or that they’re ‘sucking the life out of Britain’.


The Southampton single mum says she’s eligible to claim the disability pension (Image: Lynn McDermott / SWNS)

“I’m an open book and that probably annoys men because I’m going to challenge it.

“I’ve had a few people say, ‘Yes, everything you say is correct — but it’s still not for me, and I can accept that.’

“What I don’t accept is that I’m undated because I’m on welfare and welfare recipients are nobody, they’re scum.

“For me, I don’t know where this hatred of welfare comes from.

“Every man I interview says it’s about what I can offer them, not what they can offer me, and they don’t want anyone who isn’t able to turn them off.


But that doesn’t stop the men she talks to on the Plenty of Fish and Eharmony sites from dumping her (Image: Lynn McDermott / SWNS)

“I can still go out to dinner, drive, everything — financially, I’m reducing my expenses to what I’m going through.

“All I want is trust, reliability, so they love me the same way I love them – it just shows they’re so uneducated and judgmental.

“A strong woman behind a strong man can only be positive. It doesn’t matter if they have pounds in the bank.

“If people want to judge me without knowing me, that’s their failure.”

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