After TikTok influencer Alicia McCarvell posted a video of her and her husband dressing up for an event, she says a woman texted her husband Scott that he should be with someone like her looks, and not with McCarvell.
McCarvell, who has 4.9 million followers, posted her and her husband’s TikTok on Sunday. She posted a follow-up on Tuesday detailing the message Scott received and the hate she was receiving.
McCarvell explains that “by beauty standards” she and Scott “make no sense” and that the world appreciates her husband more than she does because he’s thin. In response to her video of her and her husband, McCarvell says people are trying to either call her husband (one comment she received assumed Scott is gay) or them (another assumed she was calling him ” Escort” must have hired) in dispute.
“We were made to believe that someone as fit as Scott could never be in love with or compatible with a fat woman in a million years,” McCarvell says on her follow-up TikTok. “That’s just because the world has literally taught us that we need to value our bodies.”
The TikToker also says that the woman who contacted her husband was thin and “a 10 out of 10 by beauty standards,” but that “people’s values are not how well their bodies fit into society’s beauty standards.”
As of Wednesday, McCarvell’s follow-up TikTok had nearly 13.5 million views.
Let’s address the trash beauty standards in the room ||••
♬ Original sound – Alicia McCarvell
McCarvell also posted a video showing more of the comments she received on her video of her dressing up with her husband. Some assumed that Scott was cheating on her, that McCarvell was Scott’s sugar mommy, and that her husband was just waiting to collect insurance money after McCarvell died.
Commenters on both of the McCarvells’ videos showing the hate agreed with her point: People belittled her because of the rigid beauty standards ingrained in them.
“It never ceases to amaze me how sad and bitter people get when they project their own insecurities and mistakes onto others,” commented user @langbang02.
“I am literally appalled at the reaction you are receiving,” wrote @justclassicallycassidy. “I see a beautiful couple who love each other and have immense value individually and as a couple.”
“The comments come out of sheer jealousy. People want to be loved so badly and can’t handle it when someone else gets it. It’s sad,” commented @bonnieleetoks.
The Daily Dot contacted McCarvell via email.
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*Initial publication: June 22, 2022 at 5:01 pm CDT
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