What is fexting?

THE LATEST addition to texting is a new version called Fexting or Fight Texting.

This type of communication has made its way into the White House between the President and the First Lady.

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What is fexting?

Fexting is the act of arguing with your partner or friends over text messages rather than confronting them in person.

The method of communication is designed to keep personal arguments away from those within earshot.

It allows individuals to voice their immediate thoughts and resolve disputes in the moment rather than waiting for a later date.

Why Does Jill Biden Use Fexting?

First Lady Jill Biden said in an interview with Harper’s Bazaar that she’s no stranger to fexting.

She said she will write to President Joe Biden often to avoid Secret Service hearing her arguments or disagreements.

Jill Biden admitted that she first tied up her husband during the Obama administration, and this has continued into Biden’s presidency.

Speaking about her Spats via text, Jill Biden told Harper’s Bazaar that the President told her, “You know this is going to go down in history. There will be a record of it.”

She added, “I won’t tell you what I called him at the time.”

Can Fexting Harm Your Relationship?

Psychologists have found that fexting can do more harm than good in relationships, saying the lack of sensory cues and body language can impede communication.

Josh Smith, an Oxford-based couples and family counselor, told The Guardian: “When you get a text you don’t hear the tremor in her voice, the pain. Maybe you only see the anger.”

He added that recording the argument can lead to ongoing anger, which would delay a person’s ability to move on.

“Having the ability for people to go back and overlook it can be difficult when it comes to people healing and moving on because it’s something to go back to, fester about, or get excited about again,” he said.

The caveat to Smith’s assessment, however, is that Fexting would provide an opportunity for individuals to think about what they want to say before responding, rather than saying something in the moment that they might regret.

Anjula Mutanda, a senior consultant licensed by the British Association for Counseling and Psychotherapy, told the outlet: “It can be useful because the person writing needs to stop and think about what they’re trying to say.

“And it gives you a moment to get out of the emotional intensity and into a much calmer headspace.”