Indigo De Souza’s “You Can Be Mean” transcends toxicity
Indigo De Souza is nearing the release of her album on April 28th All of this will endand on Wednesday, she processed the end of a toxic relationship in her video for “You Can Be Mean.”
“I wrote ‘You Can Be Mean’ about a brief toxic experience I had with a manipulative and abusive LA model f*ckboy. Brief as it is, it had a lifelong impact on my self-image,” De Souza wrote in a statement posted to Instagram. “Prior to this experience, I had a history of putting myself in toxic situations and craving validation from people who treated me poorly. I was stuck in a kind of delusion that I could help abusive people through their trauma and teach them to love me the way I deserved. I wrote this song when I finally realized that I could choose not to let harmful behaviors into my life and that there is a deep, deep meaning to protecting your body and mind.”
She continued, “I stopped caring about asshole validation, stopped thinking it was my responsibility to help them, and started really caring about myself. As I made this shift in my psyche, I began to manifest truly loving, safe, kind, and communicative people in my life. Being loved like I deserve starts with loving myself like I deserve. Boundaries are so important. The body is sacred and fragile and deserves every ounce of care.”
De Souza spoke to Uproxx about her mindset when writing All of this will end Last month.
“I lived alone and had a lot of free time because we were in lockdown,” she said. “Everything was in this standstill and I watched all the systems that have surrounded me my entire life fall apart and people who said they knew what they were doing didn’t know what they were doing. It felt like this huge veil of America was lifted and we just saw everything for what it was all along, but it hid. It was just so ugly.”
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