BRITAINS bedrooms are divided – and it’s time to fill the gap.
According to research, women only have one orgasm out of three in a man.
But how can we ensure equality in the passion department? Here, sex expert Kate Taylor shares a him-and-hers guide that guarantees parallel pleasures.
YOU “aaaah” what you eat when it comes to orgasmic potential. So here’s how to chew your way to paradise.
FOR HER: Strawberries, blackberries and blueberries all pack a passionate punch.
They’re high in vitamin C, which helps your body produce oxytocin, the bonding hormone that creates feelings of affection and closeness. Berries also contain zinc, which can improve your sexual response.
FOR HIM: Salmon, herring and sardines are high in omega-3 fatty acids. This unsexy-sounding compound helps promote cardiovascular health, allowing you to get more blood flowing below.
Omega-3 can also increase your will to achieve so you can focus on pleasing your partner.
CLEVER quaffing can support your boffen. Bottom up!
FOR HER: A glass of wine, a shot, or a single cocktail can improve your chances of orgasm because alcohol boosts your body confidence and gets you in the mood.
But rest easy, excessive alcohol disrupts your arousal, makes sex dry and uncomfortable, and can make it harder to climax. Swap the second G&T for a glass of pomegranate juice, which boosts libido.
FOR HIM: Get a watermelon sugar high by drinking a glass of juice before bed. It contains lycopene, which has a similar effect to Viagra on the circulatory system and provides more endurance.
YOU can hit the high notes by making the right moves.
FOR HER: Any exercise will improve your sexual response. Studies consistently show that regular exercise increases women’s enjoyment of sex and massively increases their body awareness (even if their appearance doesn’t change).
Train your lower abdomen with the plank move or walking lunges. Both tighten your pelvic floor and increase the intensity of your orgasm.
FOR HIM: Your pubic (pelvic floor) muscles control your bladder and your erections. Master these and you will gain control over how quickly you climax.
Try Kegel exercises. Imagine bursting into the loo and squeezing those muscles to hold it in place. Hold the pressure for ten seconds, then release. Repeat ten times, three times a day.
CAN you pop a magic pill and make your orgasms limitless? Sadly no. But some drugs and minerals might do the trick.
FOR HER: Vitamin B Complex, L-Arginine and Zinc (taken together) have been shown to help revitalize desire for sexual connection. Or try Moon Juice’s Sex Dust (£39, Cult Beauty). It contains natural aphrodisiacs such as maca and shatavari root.
FOR HIM: If you regularly orgasm in less than 1-2 minutes, you may be suffering from premature ejaculation. An over-the-counter pill like Priligy can help. Or try EMLA cream, which contains a mild anesthetic to buy you some time. Both Boots and Superdrug.
When it comes to orgasm, it’s not what you do, it’s when you do it.
FOR HER: Your chances of reaching orgasm ebb and flow throughout your cycle. In theory, ovulation (day 11-14) is the peak time, as high estrogen levels and increased lubricity make sex more enjoyable. But some women find it most satisfying the day before their cycle starts because the uterus has changed. Best advice: Just do it every day and see.
FOR HIM: Avoid starting your day with a bang. Elevated testosterone levels at 7am mean your excitement is at its peak and you won’t last as long. Try a nighttime canoodle instead. A 2018 study found that women’s libido peaks around 9 p.m., so that’s when she’s most responsive.
PILLOW fights and a PlayStation can increase your chances of a climax.
FOR HER: Do you want to increase your testosterone levels naturally? Yes, women have testosterone too, and it dramatically affects the ability to have an orgasm. Try a pillow fight, strip poker or see who gets naked the fastest. Any competition — including challenging your partner to a FIFA game — can increase your testosterone levels.
FOR HIM: Start your Xbox to control your climax. One study found that men who gamble for more than an hour a day were less likely to suffer from premature ejaculation.
POWERFUL orgasms begin in your mind. This is how you achieve inner bliss.
FOR HER: Stress and anxiety are the most common reasons women fail to achieve orgasm. Tantric breathing before sex can help you go from exhausted to blinded.
Inhale through your nose for four seconds, hold for seven seconds, and then exhale through your mouth for eight seconds. Repeat three times.
FOR HIM: Try to establish an intimate connection before sex so you can notice and adjust your partner’s arousal levels. The easiest way is to look into the eyes. Sit or lie across from your partner and look them in the eye for 30 seconds. (Avoid using it during sex as it’s incredibly unsexy).
LEARN how to take control of your bits.
FOR HER: Don’t wait for a partner to awaken your erogenous zones. The more you know what works for your body, the more confident you’ll be asking for it during sex.
Run a hot bath and spend time getting to know every area of yourself — from your mouth, to your neck, your breasts, your butt, your inner thighs, your dentures, and your feet — and discover how each of them unfolds responds to different types of pressure and touch.
FOR HIM: Recent YouGov figures showed that a shocking 31 percent of men still don’t know where the clitoris is. If you are one of them, ask your partner for a tour and point out areas of interest. Watch and learn exactly how she touches herself so you can use the same movements during sex.
It’s all in the pre-game preparation.
FOR HER: You can’t hurry, dear. It takes most women about 14 minutes to climax (women, just four minutes) and we’re far more likely to climax when our sexual encounter involves deep kissing, manual stimulation, and oral sex, as well as the basic in and out.
Don’t feel guilty about warming up — show your partner how much you enjoy their attention and they won’t take a year of it off your shoulders.
FOR HIM: Foreplay is important, but it doesn’t always have to come before sex. If you find your arousal building up too quickly during banging, switch back to using your hands or mouth to please your partner until you’re more in sync.
OPTIMIZE your sexual positions to help you reach the finish line together.
FOR HER: Orgasm from penetration alone is rare, most women need clitoral attention to climax. Here’s how to nail standard positions.
Lie flat on the bed in doggy style instead of getting on all fours. Push and rub into the mattress so that each thrust stimulates your teeth. In Missionary, squeeze your legs tightly together (instead of wrapping them around his waist) and keep your bodies pressed together as you drive.
FOR HIM: Forget your favorite high-impact thrust moves. Focus on slow, sensual sex to give her time to reach your level of arousal.
Try Spoons or Girl On Top and use your hands to stimulate her clitoris in firm, circular motions.
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