CONCERNED you might be getting close to a psychopath?
Whether it’s your best friend, your Tinder date, your neighbor, or your husband, we’ll tell you how to spot the signs.
THEY LIE ABOUT WHAT THEY HAD FOR LUNCH
They feel they are constantly fibbing about trivial things that are easy to figure out, but they seem unaffected when challenged about them.
They live in a fantasy world and this lack of shame or guilt can be very disturbing.
Everyone lies sometimes, whether it’s to avoid getting hurt, to make someone feel better, or to get out of a difficult situation.
But when someone lies about everything from what they had for lunch to what they do for a living — and they don’t give a damn if you find out — you may be dealing with a dark personality.
YOU ARE THE FIRST VOLUNTEERS
A psychopath is happy to take on important tasks like organizing a birthday party or announcing a wedding speech—things that can impact other people’s lives.
You can then temporarily bask in the glory.
Unfortunately, in the end they will not take these roles seriously and act completely unconcerned about the problems this causes for people.
Your level of irresponsibility in relation to the needs of others can be nothing short of breathtaking.
YOU MOVE YOUR MOM
They try to create divisions by telling you negative things about people you like and respect, even though they have little evidence of this.
They can even cause rifts between you and a loved one, even a parent, since their favorite game is manipulating others.
Some psychopaths intercept close relationships and then share and conquer without a conscience, content with the damage they’ve done.
And when you disagree with their opinion of someone, they make up hurtful lies about what someone else said about you.
THEY WERE THERE AND BUYED THE T-SHIRT
You find out about losing your job or a death in the family, but if you confide in them your sadness, they are not interested.
They take pleasure in your misery and instead of letting you cry or vent and reassure you that things will get better with time, they ignore your pain and start talking about themselves.
Psychopaths don’t feel empathy like the rest of us, so they can’t connect with you or offer support effectively when you’re struggling.
THEY MATCH ALL YOUR FRIENDS
While you may be impressed by how easily your new partner changes personality and blends in with your friends, co-workers, and family, be suspicious.
While this will charm everyone they meet, over time they put less effort into it and only invest time in relationships that clearly benefit them.
The ability to adapt your personality to all circumstances is not always positive.
They may seem charming, but after vowing to make your wishes come true, they will most likely disappear, leaving a million unanswered questions behind.
THEY ARE REALLY FUN
A psychopath is probably someone you have fun with. But if they suddenly experience a personality transplant, alarm bells should ring.
If you tell them you’re too tired to go to the pub or can’t afford the extra round of drinks, they’ll blast you in the face.
The next day, if you’re still reeling from the emotional breakdown, pretend nothing happened.
If you challenge them, they’ll accuse you of being oversensitive, which makes you wonder if you were the one who overreacted.
SHE DOESN’T SEEM TO HAVE ANY GRAD
Research says that one percent of us are psychopaths, and when you disagree with one about almost anything, they tend to become defensive, aggressive, and blow up at even the smallest disagreement or criticism.
While this may blind you to their behavior, a few hours later they will act like nothing happened between the two of you and never hold on to negative emotions.
Don’t expect an apology, they just expect your relationship to get back to normal.
YOU CANCEL YOUR DATES
It’s the beginning of your relationship and this person has probably made you feel like you mean a lot to them.
But if they drop you like a hot potato as soon as they think they have a better deal or initial enthusiasm wanes, that could be a red flag.
Psychopaths love excitement and have impulse control issues.
They may temporarily be the flavor of the week, but soon you’ll be wondering what you did to get the cold shoulder when they stopped calling, or ignore you when you passed them on the street.
YOU HAVE THE EAR OF YOUR BEST FRIEND
Once you’ve accepted them into your circle of trust, you may suddenly find yourself frozen out of your deepest friendships.
Psychopaths are manipulators of the first order and enjoy inflicting pain on other people. Alienating them from those who matter most to you means they can step back and admire their “work” while witnessing your emotional confusion and sadness.
When friends eye you with suspicion or give you a wide berth, ask yourself why. . . and who might be behind the change.
THEY TALK ABOUT THEIR SEX LIFE
While you’re out with your significant other and friends, out of the blue your other half begins to reveal secrets that you’ve made clear need to remain confidential.
If you try to close them instead of apologizing and moving on, this challenge adds fuel to the fire and they leak even more personal information to the group.
This is a red flag, as a partner who likes to humiliate you and make you feel small often has traits that lead to more abuse. These traits are part of the psychopath’s tool kit.
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