A savvy relationship expert has revealed that you can actually spot a cheater before they cheat on everyone based on their personality.
More specifically, the expert shared how the way someone acts with those who matter most to them, aka attachment style, can make them more likely to cheat in a relationship.
The expert Kate, who hosts a dating advice podcast, explained how your partner’s attachment style plays a key role in their likelihood of being faithful.
Kate first explained that when things go wrong in a relationship and a couple is stressed, people can react in different ways.
A person with an avoidant attachment style is someone who literally avoids confrontation and the problems in the relationship.
Kate added that avoidant people are “externalizers,” bringing something from the outside into the relationship.
Meanwhile, someone with an anxious attachment style looks to their partner when their relationship is struggling.
She explained, “If their needs aren’t being met in the relationship, they internalize.
“This manifests itself in eating disorders, depression or anxiety.
“They internalize their emotional needs that aren’t being met when that makes sense.”
Kate revealed that those with avoidant attachment styles are more likely to be cheats as they tend to look outside of their relationship in the form of other partners to meet their needs.
“Basically, if your partner is constantly stepping out of their relationship to get their needs met, whether through work or just avoidance, that’s a red flag to me that cheating might be happening.”
Additionally, Kate advised that married couples need to go through the “leaving and breaking up” stage before they’re ready to take the big step of having children.
She explained: “They have to leave their birth family and reach out to each other.
“It’s the first step in marriage, and then problems arise later in the relationship because that first step doesn’t happen, which hampers the couple’s development.”
Many people went to their comments section to share their own stories with avoidants and anxious partners.
Someone wrote: “Avoidants are the worst people ever. I got all my character development from them lol.”
“WOW you literally just described my relationship,” added another.
A third commented: “So spot on. He’s avoidant, I’m concerned.
“I didn’t leave my ‘family of origin’ and we are suffering because of it now. And I just found out he’s cheating.”
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