Finding the perfect partner can be tricky, but Trisha Goddard has a foolproof way of finding out if a man is in it for the long haul — by giving him a questionnaire.
The TalkTV host says she gave her fiancé a list of questions early in their relationship – after deciding a quiz would be the perfect way to gauge if he was the man for her.
Trisha, 64, who revealed in January that she had gotten engaged to her American boyfriend – known only as Boo – admits she decided to get straight to the point when looking for a new partner
Speaking on the latest podcast Dear Deidre, she said: “When you’re single and you’re younger and you’re getting together, it’s so different than being older and getting together.
“Because in the back of your mind you’re thinking this could be the last relationship I’ll have.
“So you don’t take cr*p. You’ve learned so much about what you don’t want. I mean, I gave my partner a questionnaire right at the beginning.”
Breast cancer survivor Trisha’s guy, who she moved in with in March 2020, was a bit surprised, but the former talk show host insisted.
She said: “He couldn’t believe it. I just said, ‘Look, I don’t do shit anymore. I’m not a spring chicken. At my age it was like, OK, I’m going through menopause or I’ve had cancer treatment for ten years.
“I have problems with my body. And this and this and this and this and this.
“I had all these talks beforehand. You know, when you’re in your 20s or 30s, you’re like, “I can talk about that later.” Well, at that age you say, ‘I’ll talk about it now’.”
The no-nonsense Trisha – who is now set to marry her other half – wasn’t concerned that her date refused to answer her questions.
She said: “I read it to him. I said right, OK, question number one. . .
“Someone said, ‘What if they didn’t want to answer?’ I said, ‘That would have said a lot to me too’.”
In 1985 Trisha married Australian Robert Nestdale, who later came out as gay and died of AIDS in 1989.
By 1993 she had married second husband, television producer Mark Grieve, 61, but they separated in 1996.
Trisha married psychotherapist Peter Gianfrancesco in 1998, but the couple separated in 2015 and filed for divorce in 2017.
She helped hundreds of Brits with their own problems while presenting her eponymous show on ITV between 1998 and 2004 and again on Channel 5 from 2005 to 2010.
But Trisha – mother of children Billie, 32, and Madi, 28 – admits she hasn’t always managed to help those closest to her.
She said: “My kids would tell you I’m the one who gave them bad advice. I was always drumming into them, that independent woman thing.
“My mom told me before you even think about a serious relationship you should have your own car, your own house, your own career, so you never stay with a guy for money.
“My two children are very successful and, thanks to their drive, they earn much more than most people their age. They are amazing.
“But they say because I’ve done this, they find it very difficult to find a partner who can compete with them, who earns the same as they do.
“I’m sorry, but there’s enough toxic masculinity out there. I was hoping it would have gone away completely with the younger generation, but apparently not.”
Trisha added that men often see very successful women as “a threat” or want to “milk” the relationship.
She believes the drive she instilled in her daughters sometimes counted against them when they dated.
She said: “We expect the younger generation of women to have a much easier time with this whole ‘successful woman’.
“But I’ll tell you, my older daughter – especially as she is in her early 30s – will tell you that this has caused many relationships to fail.
“Both my kids have said at different times, ‘We’re going to become these monsters that men are afraid of because we’re so driven.'”
But the star believes progress is being made when it comes to how open we’ve all become to talking about our own heartaches.
And she claims that women these days have more power to end a relationship if it’s not working.
“Speak more openly”
“You don’t necessarily have to stay in a relationship,” she said.
“And I think we probably knew that beforehand, cerebrally if you will, but I’m sure it’s a number that’s steadily rising – that more and more women are divorcing their partners.
“And when you’re more honest about what you’re going through, other women realize that they’re not failures when they’ve done the best they felt they could have done to keep a relationship together.
“And then they had to walk away because of their mental or physical health.
“Yeah, I guess we don’t feel so much pariahs, or weird, or strange, or on the run, because we hear other women talk about it.
“Those of us who have had to leave can talk about it a little more openly.”
https://www.the-sun.com/lifestyle/5770449/trisha-goddard-fiance-questionnaire/ I gave my fiancé a relationship test when we first started dating — it cut the cr*p, reveals Trisha Goddard