Choosing a name for your child is a very important decision that many expectant parents struggle with.
After all, you’re going to be calling your child the same name for the rest of your life, so it has to be something that not only pleases the parents, but the child as well.
A woman took to Reddit to explain her naming problem and it’s getting a lot of people talking.
The new mum explained that she and her fiancé were told they were expecting a baby boy.
Once they found out the baby’s gender, the couple began debating names and settled on the name Warren.
Excited to welcome her child, the woman was heartbroken when her fiancé sadly passed away at 23 weeks pregnant.
She then explained that she was shocked at birth giving birth to a baby girl.
But despite welcoming a girl, the woman revealed that the decision she made with her now-deceased fiancé made her adamant to call her Warren.
However, the woman’s sister believes she is doing her daughter a disservice by giving her a boy’s name, calling her selfish for her decision.
The woman took to Reddit to explain her story, captioning her post, “AITA because you wanted to give my daughter a boy name because we were preparing for a boy?”
Under the username ‘u/Worldly-Vegetable937’, the mother posted: “My sister says I’m doing my daughter a disservice and that I’m not rational and that I’m an ass.
“Throughout my pregnancy I was told I was having a boy.
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“My fiancé and I were so excited and he chose the name Warren for him and said he always fantasizes about having a son named Warren.
“I love to sew and knit and have made so many garments with the name sewn on.
“I’ve had pictures of him holding up the onesies and smiling with so many of them since we were planning to do a scrapbook.
“Unfortunately, my fiancé passed away at 23 weeks. It’s the worst thing that has ever happened to me and I’m still processing it.
“I grieved for myself and my son because I never had a father. It was terrible.
“In the end I didn’t give birth until 41 weeks as I had the most agonizing and traumatic pregnancy and delivery.
“I found out at birth that she was a girl. It was so shocking.
“I had a home birth as we planned. I did everything the way we planned because I still feel him by my side.
“Changing everything we have planned feels wrong.”
The woman explained that she has been calling her daughter Warren or Ren for three weeks, but her sister disagrees.
She continued: “I’ve been calling her Warren or Ren for three weeks now and my sister who has been supporting me all along is giving me dirty looks.
“She’s my only family and the only support I have and she doesn’t give a fuck about a NAME.
“I’m having her birth certificate done next weekend and my sister came by last night.
“I assumed I was helping, but instead she’s arguing that I don’t follow through with the name and use ‘Wren’ if at all, and set my daughter up for failure and bullying.
“I’ve explained how I’ve been doing this since my fiancé passed and thought our child’s name was Warren and I wasn’t going to honor our agreement and it was the name he chose that our daughter would love.
“She still says I’m an a****le and selfish and I should change it ‘for her sake,’ and she says I love my fiancé more than my daughter.”
Reddit users reacted rather harshly, stunned by the woman’s decision to give her child a boy’s name, regardless of the circumstances.
One person said: “You’re grieving and that’s okay, but maybe it’s time to step back and reconsider your stance? The name is meaningful only to you, your daughter will not care at all, apart from the fact that she will get shit for it.
“Probably she’ll change it as soon as she’s able and not say thank you.”
Another added: “I’m sorry but you’re not the one who has to live your life by that name. Think of your daughter’s happiness instead of your own.”
A third commented: “Kids are little pricks who will use any excuse to tease and bully them. There is no point in making it easier for them.”
A fourth chimed in: “You’ve had a rough few months. But your daughter will ask you her name. And if you tell her that story, it might be too much for her. They had planned a boy, but when the baby was born it was a girl.
“You want her to think you realize that, and you love her for who she is – not who you thought she was.”
Someone else said: “I would be less concerned about the bullying and more concerned that the daughter will get the impression that her father who has passed away and she will never meet and her mother wanted a boy and she is not the boy , which they wanted.
“The name will end up being just a constant reminder.”
https://www.the-sun.com/lifestyle/5967877/given-daughter-boy-name-bullied-dont-care/ I gave my daughter a boy’s name – people say she’s bullied, but I’ve been preparing for a boy so I don’t care