A user on TikTok sparked a debate after sharing a wedding invitation on the platform.
In a video with over 661,000 views, TikTok user Kelli (@kellikeylimepie) juxtaposes a wedding invitation with the couple’s request for gifts.
On the wedding invitation, the guests are told: “Please understand that you are obliged to pay for your meal yourself.”
However, another part of the invitation tells the guests: “All gifts are welcome; Monetary gifts preferred.”
As Kelli says in the caption, “Tell us how you really feel!”
@kellikeylimepie Tell us how you really feel! #weddingtiktok #weddingguest #strugglebus ♬ Original sound – Kelli
In the comments, many users said that an invitation like this would put them off going to the wedding.
“I’m sorry we can’t attend,” said one user.
“I wouldn’t even bother to answer,” offered another.
“There’s no way I would go. This is so cheesy,” shared a third.
Many commentators showed understanding for a difficult financial situation; However, they also found that paying for your own food while being asked for a monetary gift can leave a bad taste in the mouths of diners.
“I would pay for my meal myself if the invitation didn’t say gifts. But expecting cash when guests are paying for themselves is absolutely ridiculous,” commented one user.
“It’s okay to want money instead of gifts, especially since a lot of people are already living together, but paying for the food yourself?! LMAO,” repeated a second.
“I swear some people get married thinking it’s a FUNDRAISING,” wrote another.
However, some users defended the actions of the newlyweds.
“I’m in the minority but idk, I see,” one user offered. “Weddings are expensive. It’s not like they’re asking you to go to another country or anything.”
The Daily Dot contacted Kelli via Instagram direct message.
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*Initial publication: November 22, 2022 at 8:48 am CST
Braden Bjella is a culture writer. His work can be found in Mixmag, Electronic Beats, Schön! magazine and more.
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