Cop ‘raped mom while her kids slept’ after meeting on app

A police officer is said to have raped a businesswoman the day after meeting her through a dating app and “won’t take no for an answer,” a court has heard.

David Longden-Thurgood, 48, reportedly told her “It feels too good that I can’t stop now” when asked to stop.

A court has heard the divorced Longden-Thurgood met the woman, a mother in her 30s, through the Bumble dating app.

The 19-year-old Hampshire officer sent her selfies, spoke of possibly having sex in his uniform and told the woman: “I’m a bit of a rebel off duty”.

“I will protect you for life, you will be my little girl, I will take care of you,” he said in one.

Prosecutor Rebecca Fairbairn told the court the woman invited him to her home after a day in which the couple exchanged sexed messages and sent nude selfies.

Ms Fairbairn said she wanted to chat to get to know him but has repeatedly said: “I don’t want sex”.

The day after the alleged attack, the woman wrote him a message: “I just kept saying no, we’re not having sex.” I didn’t mind a spoon and a bit of play but I think you wanted to come here and have sex, it got to the point I might as well stop saying no.’

Longden-Thurgood replied: “Sorry baby, I thought with all the sex talk this was what we both wanted. It is very difficult to accept the invitation to your house to spoon after all the talk and not have sex.

Opening the trial at Winchester Crown Court, Ms Fairbairn said the father-of-three Longden-Thurgood matched the woman on Bumble in October 2020 and they met at her home in Hampshire the following evening.

She told the jury, “Even when she said no, he wasn’t ready to take no for an answer.”

“Due to the fact that they had sent messages, and partly because he was a police officer, she felt a certain level of trust and so it was arranged that he would come over the following night after she had put the children to bed .”

The couple had engaged in “some sexual activity” and Ms Fairbairn said the alleged victim voluntarily told investigators that she consented at the time.

But when she noticed Longden-Thurgood taking off his boxers, she told him, “I don’t want to have sex.”

He replied: “Don’t worry, we won’t have sex”.

The jury was told Longden-Thurgood then raped the woman “without warning” while she remained silent.

When she told him again that she didn’t want sex, Longden-Thurgood told her, “Well, it feels too good, I can’t stop now.”

The woman said it “hurts,” he was “aggressive,” and she felt “numb,” the court heard.

She said she couldn’t make eye contact with him and was worried about waking her children.

The next day, Longden-Thurgood said in messages between the two that the woman looked “miserable,” “bloated disproportionately,” and “you make me feel like shit.”

On the same day, the woman was emotional while picking up her children after school. Ms Fairbairn said her friend of five noticed something was wrong.

When the woman contacted police days later, she hesitated and asked for two days to consider making a formal complaint.

Longden-Thurgood, from Waterlooville, Hampshire, denies having been raped.

His rank was not given, but he was heard conducting risk assessments in an armed forces control room.

The process goes on.

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